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How often should a healthy couple have sex?
Sex happens alot at the beginning of a new relationship. And then, inevitably, passions calm, things become normal, work, stress and even intimate moments begin to lesson. How can you know what the lull in sexualy activity with your partner is becoming a problem? There is no hard and fast rule, but it’s always possible to see if you are an average couple.
To help us out, a study was published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, which pointed out the changes in the frequency of sexual activity in American during the last few decades. They used a large database which had the testimonies of more that 26 thousand adult Americans collected from the 1970s to the present. Looking at the data, from 2010 to 2014, a married adult male had sex an average of 55 times a year.
While married and cohabiting couples came in a little lower at 50 times a year. That’s about once a week, more or less. It’s a plausible average, that varies greatly when age is considered (with as many as 78 sexual encounters for 18‐29 years old and 10 for those over 70), but even the decade one looks at makes a difference. From 2005 to 2009, the average number of sexual encounters for married adult American men was more than 61 (6 more than today’s numbers), from 2000 to 2004 nearly 67, and from 1995 to 1999 nearly 69 times. It seems that American libido is in free fall.
It’s possible to imagine that the decline would depend on social changes and customs, but the data suggests otherwise. Neither the amount of time working per day nor the increased or decreased availability of pornography affect the frequency of sex for adult americans. So how to explain this decline in desire? The study cannot offer a definitive answer, but the authors do put forward a few hypotheses.
The increased availability of distractions in family life, such as movies and other forms of entertainment and the evergrowing use of social media, along with a general falling in happiness and satisfaction among American adults in recent years could have affected intimacy among partners. A second phenomenon is the increased average age as which a couple has their first child, which has led to an increase in older couples with school-aged children.
These two characteristics seem to be independently linked with the decline in sex.